Wendy Williams Celebrates Her 54th Birthday!

Wendy Williams Celebrates Her 54th Birthday!

80’s Pop Diva Taylor Dayne Performs Live!

#MYGIRL! Television and Radio Icon, Wendy Williams, turns 54 years-old today! You may know Williams as the blunt and bold Daytime Talk Show host, but I know her as my role model. I’ve been following her career since I was first introduced to her in high school and have been an avid watcher of her show for the last nine years. Lucky for myself and fans alike: Williams is slated to run until at least 2020! Per usual, she publicly celebrated her birthday on her show with her parents, cohosts (audience), and a special guest, 80s music icon, Taylor Dayne, by her side. Wendy tearfully gave her opening monologue before she started her daily round of dishing hot topic Celebrity gossip:

“These are tears of happiness. Because, you know when you turn 54 a lot of the time you don’t have people around you, or the people who got you to that age. You look for the things that make you happy. It’s not about gifts after a certain age. My husband and I still hold hands: We love each other very much. I turned a messy radio career into…this mess [her show]. How do I feel? I feel very, very happy. Like, mmhmm, wow. Sweet.”

Williams continued her show with potential gossip of Mogul, Beyonce, being pregnant with a fourth child, her usual segment giving advice in Ask Wendy, and a weekend hotel giveaway.

Joining in Williams’ birthday festivities: Elle Magazine interviewed her regarding her always being snubbed from the Daytime Emmy Awards. Williams doesn’t care that the Academy isn’t recognizing her for talent (probably because she’s a glorified gossip). She’s not here for trophies and critics: She’s here for the people. Williams tells:

“Who's a better talk show host? Don't have one! Don't have one! Will probably never get one. But it's okay. You know why? Because I've got the power of the people. I do the show from a place of good. With a kind heart. And nobody to pay my bills. I can't get slick. I need this job. I didn't grow up rich. I like it here on TV. With finery. I'm saying what I think. What I think, a lot of people think. They're just too afraid to say it. This show is exactly what I would be watching if I wasn't doing it. There's nothing out there forced."

Finally, to melt our gay hearts: Dayne performs Tell It To My Heart in celebration of Williams’ birthday and the 30th anniversary of the song. Literally, this is my favorite 80s song so I am in hog heaven right now. Dayne brings the absolute best energy into the room the moment she steps in. I will say her voice sounded a bit strained, but – she could sing the most of us under the table any day of the week. You’ve got to relive nostalgia check out Dayne’s performance below:

Make sure you say a Happy Birthday to THE Wendy THE Williams!

Rub And Tug To Be Dropped From Production!

Rub And Tug To Be Dropped From Production!

Scarlett Johansson Casting Controversy Leads To Flop!

Well, well, well. I told you so. The moment I heard the transgender community up in arms over the casting choice of Avengers: Infinity War Actress, Scarlett Johansson, as a transgender man: I knew the film would get pulled from production. In modern age, social media can lead you to get fired from your job, humiliated by society, and reputations destroyed. While the #MeToo movement has proved to be an incredibly positive influence in our culture, sometimes a movement can be damaging.

According to Pink News, the anger of Johansson being cast to play real-life transgender man, Dante "Tex" Gill, in the would-be film, Rub and Tug, has led to the film likely being pulled in it's entirety. Even after Johansson released a sincere apology to the transgender community. She even suggested the role be played by a transgender man - who

Okay, so: Obviously this was going to happen. But, at what cost? Was this uproar truly worth it, y'all? Did the transgender community win this battle since the role isn't going to be played by a heterosexual, cisgendered female? Now, the movie is more than likely not going to be made. Johansson's production company was set to produce the movie: It's likely not going to move forward after burying this woman who wanted to actually showcase a transgender story. I highly doubt she'll ever want to touch any subject matter regarding the transgender community again. Is this an appropriate time to add a reference to Nelson Muntz from The Simpsons saying "HA-HA!"?

So, in the end: Dante Gill's story likely won't get to be told. All because of social media outrage. I'm really disappointed. I'm sure the transgender community could've made a point and gotten much representation within the film in some type of way. Look at how much influence the phenomenal Janet Mock has had in FX's latest hit, Pose. This is so disappointing.

Do you believe this is a win for the transgender community - or should the film not have been made whatsoever if no transgender man was taking the reign? 

Writer's Note: This is the opinion of one Instinct Contributor and does not reflect the views of my fellow Instinct Contributors or Instinct Magazine itself.

My Neighbor Is Constantly Having Anonymous Sex!

My Neighbor Is Constantly Having Anonymous Sex!

Is It Appropriate To Address An Adult's Sex Life?

#InstinctAfterDark! Okay, so I've written plenty of Instinct After Dark posts, but this one isn't really a naughty fantasy or revelation of my own. Instead, I'm kind of deflecting to the sex life of someone who is literally, close to me. I'm a twenty-something living in West Hollywood, California who definitely is at the bottom of the totem pole in dating brackets. I'm constantly busy with juggling different jobs, I'm more flamboyant than society prefers, and I could probably work out a little bit. I get it: Dating is difficult when you aren't actively putting yourself out there. I've dangled in the realm of dating apps and have had my share of hookups...sometimes because, I just wanted too. Rarely, however, do I not at least want gather details about the person I'm going to be sleeping with. Well, I'm neighbors with someone who definitely doesn't care who steps into his home: He's into anonymous sex.

What is anonymous sex? Well, my definition - which I believe is accurate according to amateur x-rated videos - is one (typically the bottom) is on all fours, blindfolded in a jockstrap; if you're kinky - in a darkened room. The anonymous top will enter through an unlocked door, find the bottom, go to pound town, and leave after he's done. We just discussed this when an anonymous sex club was charging more money for bottoms, so hopefully you're up to date! 

How do I know my neighbor is having anonymous sex? Let me school you. I'm a smoker (I know, my mom has already scolded me). I'm often outside of my building in the unofficial smoking area on my phone and observing my humble neighborhood. During evenings and any-hour of the weekend: Men are going in and out the apartment next to mine. They are constant. The men will walk up to the apartment with boners, usually in typical sex attire (sweats/basketball shorts and a tank top), and a paranoia of looking over their shoulder every three seconds. Often, if I'm outside: I'm approached as being the gentleman in apartment number _. I've also had to tell these men where the apartment actually is. I see them give a knock and let themselves in with a turn of the doorknob: Which leads to my neighbor's mutt yapping for the next fifteen minutes until the caller leaves. I call it like I see it: My neighbor is having anonymous sex - and a ton of it.

Why is this becoming an issue for me? I don't live in a fancy condo, so my building is openly outside and easy to enter. My neighbor's entry door is next to mine: We share walls! As I'm standing outside smoking, I'll leave my door unlocked - but still in my view. Twice men have almost walked into my apartment before realizing it's the incorrect one and me shouting from afar. Now, like a responsible adult, I dead bolt my door regardless if I'll be standing outside or not. Occasionally, these gentlemen leaving have tried to get my number after their deed has been done. In one case: A drunk patron told me he was cat-fished. Yikes!

So, this brings me to my dilemma: Should I have a conversation with my neighbor and tell him he's bringing in a lot to my apartment building which has been relatively quiet for the last two years? I know I shouldn't get involved in other people's business, but the whole I could get walked in on at any moment thing is kind of irking me to the point where I feel like I should say something. But, where would I even begin?

Would you confront your neighbor who is addicted to anonymous sex?

Substance Abuse Significantly More Prevalent in LGBTQ+ Students, Says Study

Feeling like you can’t be yourself, being ashamed, can of course lead to self-destructive behavior. A lot of us in the LGBTQ+ community already knew this, but a study of American teenagers and drug abuse has just emphasized it further.

San Diego State University researchers evaluated 15,624 students, asking them their sexual orientation, and about their use of various drugs including alcohol, opiates, meth and tobacco.

According to Pink News, the study published in the American Journal of Public Health found that LGBTQ+ students are more likely use substances including “alcohol, cigarettes, cigars, cocaine, ecstasy, vape, hallucinogens, heroin, inhalants, weed, meth, prescription drugs, steroids and synthetic marijuana.”

Pink News also points out the distressing numbers showing how much more likely LGBTQ+ teens are to turn to hard drugs: 6.6 percent surveyed admitted to using heroin against 1.3 percent of straight kids.

Also upsetting: 8.6 percent of LGBTQ+ kids said they’d use meth as opposed to 2.1 percent of straight students. 15 percent admitted they’d use cocaine and ecstasy.

Some, of course, might take this as an opportunity to judge LGBTQ+ teens, or to stereotype people in the community as drug addicts.

To any rational person, this reads as a devastating wake-up call.

Laramie Smith, one of the study’s authors and an LGBTQ+ health researcher at the University of California, San Diego, said this:

“Our findings highlight the need for accepting LGBQ teens, as stigma may be playing a role in elevating their substance use risk or prevent those from needing help to speak up.”

h/t: Pink News 

Scarlett Johansson Pulls Out Of Film After Backlash!

Scarlett Johansson Pulls Out Of Film After Backlash!

Uproars Over Casting Choice Leads To Exit!

#GROAN! Well, those who threw a fit over social media got their wish. We recently informed you about the controversial casting choice where Avengers Actress, Scarlett Johansson, would portray a transgender man in the upcoming film, Rub and Tug. I had a very unpopular opinion on why people shouldn’t be raging maniacs about the casting choice an foresaw the film being pulled. Well, it’s halfway there thanks to the uproar of negativity that came with the casting.

According to Entertainment Weekly, Johansson has removed herself from the acting role in a statement to Out magazine. She tells:

“In light of recent ethical questions raised surrounding my casting as Dante Tex Gill, I have decided to respectfully withdraw my participation in the project,” Johansson said in a statement Friday to Out magazine. “Our cultural understanding of transgender people continues to advance, and I’ve learned a lot from the community since making my first statement about my casting and realize it was insensitive. I have great admiration and love for the trans community and am grateful that the conversation regarding inclusivity in Hollywood continues. According to GLAAD, LGBTQ+ characters dropped 40 percent in 2017 from the previous year, with no representation of trans characters in any major studio release. While I would have loved the opportunity to bring Dante’s story and transition to life, I understand why many feel he should be portrayed by a transgender person, and I am thankful that this casting debate, albeit controversial, has sparked a larger conversation about diversity and representation in film. I believe that all artists should be considered equally and fairly. My production company, These Pictures, actively pursues projects that both entertain and push boundaries. We look forward to working with every community to bring these most poignant and important stories to audiences worldwide.”

I doubt we’ll even see this film come to light amid the controversy. I’m happy Johansson has made a statement in support of the transgender community, but is any of this really going to help? Rub and Tug could’ve been an interesting story to see unravel, but now it’s pretty much poisoned itself. Call it quits.

Writer’s Note: This is the opinion of one Instinct Contributor and does not reflect the views of Instinct Magazine itself or the other contributing writers.

Cazwell's Steamy New Video for 'Cakes' is Out

Openly gay rapper Cazwell just dropped an insanely sexy video that highlights several men's "Cakes."

The talented emcee, who just released a fantastic EP with RuPaul's Drag Race star Peppermint, debuted his new music video on YouTube Monday. "Cakes" is being touted as a country & western trap love song of sorts... however the video will trap your eyes in a different way. 

The video, directed by Nathan Noyes, features men in outfits that seem to be inspired by Sacha Baren Cohen in Borat. Pretty much their entire bodies is on display minus the peen area, but the focus is on their variety of "cakes", all of which look delicious.

NSFW for all the obvious reasons. 



Is An Uproar Over Casting Choices Necessary?

Is An Uproar Over Casting Choices Necessary?

Weighing In On Scarlett Johansson Casting Controversy

By now you've probably heard Avengers Actress Scarlett Johansson has found herself in the middle of an uproar over a recent film's casting choices where she has been cast as massage parlor owner, Dante "Tex" Gill, a Transgender man, in the upcoming Rub & Tug. When asked about the casting choice and controversy, Johansson slickly refers to the casting choices of Jeffrey Tambor, Fecility Huffman, and Jared Leto who have all played Transgender characters in recent years, followed by much Academy success.

According to Buzzfeed, Transgender Actresses, Trace Lysette (Transparent) and Jamie Clayton (Sense 8), have vocalized  their disgust over the casting choice. Along with those two ladies of the silver screen, the “I-Always-Have-Something-To-Complain-About-Blogger” Jen Richards proposed The Hollywood Reporter should hold a panel with Transgender actors ... because apparently she's an actress now, too. Lysette, who is clearly jealous she didn’t get the role, went so far to tweet she "is so done" with ...acting(?) over the casting decision. Check out her confusing and salty tweet.




After thinking about this over and over, I formulated my opinion to be this. While it is extremely clear Rub & Tug will obviously tank amid controversy, I cannot help but feel it is for all for the wrong reasons. Yes, I understand Johansson accepted a role that whited wash an Asian character and now has accepted a role of a Transgender man, but should we really be directing our anger toward her? Would you not accept a check and a job ... and a role in a film?! I guarantee you anyone complaining absolutely would.

Lysette, in particular, cites not being able to be in the same room as Johansson or Jennifer Lawrence for acting roles: It's why she's so upset. Let's take a step back, shall we? Is Lysette a household name? No. Is Lysette on the level of talent such as two leading Hollywood Actresses? Not yet. So, Lysette, you shouldn't be in the same room as them because you have not yet proved to be on the radar of someone who has worked for years in this industry. I'll be the first to admit I think the aforementioned Clayton has loads of talent, but once again, I cannot see any of the Transgender Actresses complaining over the casting choice in any mainstream role at least in the upcoming year. Why? Because they have yet to pay their dues to the industry.

Example: Do you think Jennifer Aniston was complaining she wasn't in the same room with the Hollywood Hot List when she was in her early 20s and took a leading role in the B-Horror film, Leprechaun? Probably! But she wasn't crying over it. She moved forward!

Unfortunately, I cannot think of a Transgender Male Actor besides Chaz Bono; are all Transgender men's roles to be only directed to him? This is acting, which so many people are separating from real life. If you'd like to see incredible, literally, stunning acting from the Transgender community, I advise you to watch Ryan Murphy's Pose – which Lysette is a character on! - and is arguably the best Summer 2018 television.

In closing, the whole film should be scrapped because the complaints have absolutely ruined it. But, there shouldn't have been commotion from the peanut gallery in the first place. I understand Transgender Actors want the door to be opened for them to earn and have roles. However, I think people need to understand that acting is a job. This isn’t a film plot where someone gets picked up off the street. If you’re putting in the time and work to get roles, they will come to you.

Writer's Note: This is the opinion of one Instinct Contributor and does not reflect the views of Instinct Magazine or it's other Contributors.

UK Government Seeks To Ban Harmful "Ex-Gay" Therapy

A new survey of 108,000 LGBTQ people in the UK has cast a new light on the discrimination that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people  face each day.

Among the findings:

• More than two-thirds of respondents admitted they don’t hold hands with their same-sex partner in public our of fear

• 2% of the 108,000 had undergone conversion therapy; 5% had been offered the discredited treatment

• 40% of respondents had experienced anti-LGBTQ hate incidents; of those 9 out of 10 were unreported

• 23% admitted they had experienced anti-LGBTQ animus in the workplace

• 70% avoid living openly as LGBTQ to avoid negative reactions

• 67% of transgender respondents say they avoid being open about their gender identity due to fear of how others would react

In response to the findings, a new initiative has now been announced titled, “LGBT Action Plan - Improving the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people” which aims to explore "legislative and non-legislative options to prohibit promoting, offering or conducting conversion therapy."

Medical experts around the world including the World Health Organization, the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association and almost every other professional therapeutic group in America, have denounced the practice of so-called “conversion” or “ex-gay” therapy as inappropriate, unethical, harmful and, in some cases, can lead to suicide.

The approach of “conversion therapy’ is based on the premise that LGBTQ people are suffering from a mental condition that needs to be ‘fixed.” The World Health Organization declassified homosexuality a mental condition in 1992.

In the United States, 13 states plus Washington, D.C. and over 30 local municipalities ban the harmful practice for minors.

The 30-page proposal includes more support for LGBT teachers and students, improvements to gender identity services for transgender adults, working to improve the police response to LGBT hate incidents, and more. The proposals will be funded by an initial £4.5m.

Reacting to the survey’s results, British Prime Minister Theresa May issued a statement saying he felt "struck by just how many respondents said they cannot be open about their sexual orientation or avoid holding hands with their partner in public for fear of a negative reaction."

"No one should ever have to hide who they are or who they love," the UK leader said. "This LGBT action plan will set out concrete steps to deliver real and lasting change across society, from health and education to tackling discrimination and addressing the burning injustices that LGBT people face."

Ruth Hunt, chief executive of the British LGBT rights group Stonewall, hailed the new initiative by the government as "an important first step" but added that it needs to lead to "tangible change."

"Some people will be shocked by the findings. But for anyone who is LGBT, or has a family member or friend who is, these results will be sadly recognizable," she said in a statement. “Laws have improved and attitudes have changed but our society still treats LGBT people like second-class citizens."

Sugarland Performs Song in Dedication of the LGBTQ Community

Sugarland happens to be one of the most iconic and popular country music duos of all-time. Comprised of singer Jennifer Nettles and Kristian Bush on vocals and acoustic guitar, these two have been burning up the charts for many years and have earned tons of awards in the process.

They are currently on tour and have decided to rotate one song into their set list that speaks to a cause they are passionate about. Though extremely rare to be politically outspoken on liberal topics in the country community, Jennifer has bravely never shied away from her beliefs. 



This month, especially for Pride, Sugarland has been covering Patty Griffin’s “Tony” to help shine a light on the issue of teen suicide and hate speech within the LGBTQ community. 


Here’s what they have to say about doing that song and their support of the LGBTQ community:

Sugarland has always been a band that believes in reaching people through their hearts. Our songs are meant to be shared stories. Our shows have always been places where you are welcome no matter what kind of music you enjoy, what you look like, where you are from, or how or who you love. Simply speaking everyone is welcome here, you & you & you & you. Our music is intended for everyone’s ears. We are using the & (ampersand) in our logo to express and remind everyone that there is acceptance for all here in this place we have created called Sugarl&.”

Right in step with the messaging of our latest album “Bigger”, Kristian and I, being huge supporters of the LGBTQ community, wanted to celebrate pride month during our live show. “Tony”, written by Patti Griffin is a confronting song about a gay, teen suicide. We wanted to play the song and raise awareness among our fanbase about the impact of hate speech and the importance of supporting LGBTQ kids. We contacted our friends at the HRC to supply us with the appropriate messaging to enhance the performance. We hope it touches hearts, possibly changes minds and that our LGBTQ fans, friends and family know they are loved, supported and celebrated. Happy Pride!

50 Cent Mocks Terry Crew’s Sexual Assault!

50 Cent Mocks Terry Crew’s Sexual Assault!

Crews Speaks In Front Of US Senate Judiciary Committee 

#GROAN! In October 2017, we reported Actor Terry Crews had made sexual assault allegations against Talent Agent, Adam Venit. Yesterday, the 49-year-old White Chicks star appeared before the United States Senate Judiciary Committee to speak of a Sexual Assault Survivors Bill of Rights which is being proposed. Crews doesn’t go into too much detail of the assault, but allegedly, Venit grabbed Crews’ genitals and was “effectively telling he is in control.” Upon a question regarding retaliation from a Senator, Crews proclaims the Producers of The Expendables films wanted him to drop the sexual assault case in order for him to continue in the franchise. Crews refused and is no longer going to be in the series. Ironically, the alleged Producer who made this claim is going through his own sexual assault allegation case. Trust me, I tried snooping to see who was producing the film but came up short.

Check out Crews’ emotional speech to the Senate below:

Of course, we all applaud Crews for calling out Venit for sexual assault. One would be led to believe someone of Crews’ physical size, attitude, and stature would not be able to be sexually assaulted. One of the people who are taking Crews’ sexual assault as a joke is Rapper 50 Cent, who kind of appears to appreciate his gay fans, but has a sketchy past with homophobia. Cent took to Instagram, creating a meme of combined photographs of Crews: Flexing and holding a rose in his mouth. Cent captioned it with a quote from Crews: “I froze in fear” with a laughing emoji. Check out the now deleted-post below:

Literally Cent is nothing but ignorant the majority of the time. He is insinuating that due to Crews’ size, he is unable to be sexually assaulted and should’ve gotten violent with the predator. Crew has stated in the past he didn’t want to get in a physical altercation with Venit because the headlines would be swapped: Large, African-American man attacks skinny Caucasian Agent.

According to TMZ, Crews is well aware of Cent’s ignorant post but is not going to respond to him. Crews will continue being one of the most surprising faces of sexual assault in the #MeToo industry. He continues his battle to get justice.