Accidental Conversation At A Baseball Game Leads To A Date, Or Does It?

The new digital offering 50/20 bills itself as “an interracial, age challenged, sexually fluid web series.”

In the new series, written by Christopher Long and Evan Wynkoop,  John (Christopher Nester) and Chris (Christopher Long) meet by chance on a baseball field and an accidental conversation becomes a romantic moment.

Or does it?

Chris is an African-American man in his 50s with a great job, great apartment, great friends, but not-so-great love life. Two years after the death of his longtime lover, he’s been on a lot of bad dates.

John is a good-looking guy in his 20s trying to find a career. A college graduate, he’s in that New York City “table-waiting, bartending, personal training” mode.

Neither of the two are looking for anything when they meet, but the conversation leads to John asking for Chris’s phone number.

According to the digital series’ official website, Chris has never dated a white person and John has never dated anyone who wasn’t white.

And, did I mention that Chris is gay and John is straight?

It’ll be interesting to see where this goes.

Check out episode one, “Chance Meeting,” below.



Pence Becomes First Vice President to Speak at Anti-LGBTQ Group's Summit

On September 22 the Family Research Council, a notoriously hateful, anti-LGBTQ group held their Values Voter Summit in Washington. Among the many people who attended was Mike Pence, making him the first Vice President to speak at an anti-LGBTQ event. President Donald Trump spoke at the same event last year.

The Family Research Council is a hyper-religious group that spouts a great deal of hateful rhetoric, the most prevalent being their views on homosexuality To spare you from clicking on that link, I'll sum up their views: they believe that homosexuality is unnatural and people who engage in homosexual activity are harming themselves and society as a whole, that LGBTQ people shouldn't be equal to heterosexuals, and that same-sex marriages are illegitimate. Unsurprisingly, the FRC is also in favor of conversion therapy and denies transgender people's gender identity. In the past, the members of the FRC praised Trump's transgender military ban, and people such as Jack Philips, who refused to bake a cake for a gay couple. The Values Voter Summit's goal is to preserve traditional values in regard to marriage, religious liberty, and limited government. 

It's hardly surprising that Mike Pence, an Indiana conservative with strong Christian faith, would speak at the Values Voter Summit. Pence is not shy about his views on homosexuality, saying that it is a symptom of societal collapse and opposed a law that would prevent discrimination of LGBTQ people in the workplace, and, like the FRC, is in favor of conversion therapy.

By having the president and vice president, both unequivocally powerful positions, speaking at this event they're giving a voice to a group that should be actively opposed as they attempt to abrogate the progress that many human and gay rights activists fought so hard to obtain. 

The president and vice president should be looking out for all US citizens, but by having both Trump and Pence speak at an anti-LGBTQ summit, they are showing that they will speak against progress promote hate to pander to their base.

h/t: nbcnews.com, independent.co.uk, frc.org, time.com

Exclusive Interview With Industrial Music Pioneer & Veteran, Jim Marcus, His Current Project “Go Fight”

“Queer the World”

Industrial music pioneer, and veteran Jim Marcus, his current project “Go Fight” and the support for the LGBT community within the punk/industrial music world.

I got into Jim Marcus’s music in the early '90s when he was with a politically charged insdustrial band, Die Warzau. He later worked with Pigface, Machines of Loving Grace, Bjork, collaborating with Nine Inch Nails, and anyone else of the Who's Who of of the synth punk Industrial dance music world. The album just released “Tokyosexwale” is named for a revolutionary human rights activist who went to prison along with Nelson Mandela, and is a tribute to members of the LGBT community and what they have done in the face of human rights issues. Jim is openly bisexual and has taken the fight to the face of opponents with songs like “Moscow Drag”, a tongue and cheek commentary on the Russian oppression of LGBT people as of late, “Gay on the Dancefloor”, and now “Queer The World” is reclaiming the term “Queer” as an empowering adjective. 

I was able to get with Jim Marcus, have a great involved conversation, and pick at that creative brain of his.

Jeremy Hinks: So Jim, let's start with the “when did you know” question, then move on to how it plays into your music.

Jim Marcus: Well, I came out as gay in high school, then a year later realized I was bisexual, it was a journey. I went to an all boys' catholic high school.

I would think that men were for really good sex, women were for emotional connection. Then, meeting someone else, I would think, “women are for really good sex, men were for emotional connection.” It was about the person. Then the journey into understanding more about who I was attracted to and came out as bisexual.

So how did that work, being in a Catholic school, and family?

Well, I did get kicked out of the house. I was lucky enough - a lot of young LGBT people end up living on the streets. I decided I would call my friends and tell them what happened and the first one who said, “ooh, come live with me, I would go there.” I was fortunate enough to have someone offer, and I stayed there..

That’s inspiring. Im in Salt Lake City and we don’t have that kind of support system. Utah has an epidemic of homeless LGBT youth, based on the fact that the LDS Church is so avidly against the “decision” and the “sinfull” lifestyle, kids get kicked out all the time. So you understand why we have the LOVELOUD Festival. Ok, it's more mainstream pop music there, but still a cause close to all of our hearts. Closest thing to industrial was Mike Shinoda of Linkin Park. Those guys were a bit dark, but well, nothing like Skinny Puppy or Ministry.


So then you went on to Die Warzau, and the rest is history? I remember watching the Die Warzau video of “Welcome to America” and I saw it as very homo-erotic, but the subject matter and sound were still very aggressive and politically charged. Can you go into that a little?

Die Warzau was named after a group of resistors, “Die Warsau Symphony,” who kept playing until they were all wiped out. The best-selling t-shirt we had was one that said “Gay Soldiers Died, too”, so there was no hidden message there.



I never got to see you guys live. You probably came through when I was living in Germany. From a previous conversation/interview, you said “If you are not going to find love and acceptance as LGBT in the industrial, punk, techno dance music scene, where are you going to find it?” Did you find there was much static against you guys making all this music, because of the stereotypes? You know, it's punk. It should be more masculine, more manly, more machismo. Or was it just generally accepted from the get-go?

The originators of industrial, many of them, were transgressive in how they approached gender and their sexuality. There was Genesis, obviously, was pansexual and non binary, the members of Coil, us, Cosey Fan Tutti, who was a sex worker, too. Jim Nash and Dannie Flesher who founded WAXTRAX, were not just co-owners of a record label, but they were two people very much in love, a gay couple who also had a record company.  What most people still don’t see is that it is just assumed that you are straight until they learn otherwise. That is the defaultism that people exhibit here. You couldn't miss it with WAXTRAX though. I mean one of the first singles the released was Divine’s “Born To Be Cheap”, so that was clear.

Right, a hetero-centric culture, it's the base template people start with, and, “WE”, myself included as the straight guy, I see it that way. I mean, I have no problem learning otherwise about people, but I understand that I make that assumption by default I guess, now that you point it out.

Exactly, it’s how people operate with when they meet someone. People say things like “I don’t know any gay people.” – yes, you do. Or, “I never met a trans person”- yes, you did. In the beginning, we knew this about each other, and were open about it, and so we saw no real contradiction in being who we were and making an aggressive sounding dance music, without having to conform to a specific stereotype.

Right, I did think it was funny when all the "macho football players" were singing QUEEN, WE WILL ROCK YOU, and WE ARE THE CHAMPIONS at the games and Freddie was also out and very flamboyant. I did also get a laugh about Judas Priest's Rob Halford coming out, and the Metalhead world had a hard time with that. I mean, one of the most popular metal bands of all time and he really turned that stereotype upside down.

Well, Rob Halford is a good guy. He has an amazing voice and you can look at him now and realize he wasn’t hiding anything. People were just willfully not seeing him. He made no effort to hide who he was, he was exactly who he was, and it fit him well, and it was just assumed he was NOT gay because that was the defaultism of the time. No one should have been surprised when he came out. 



Well, on that point though, I remember looking at Depeche Mode in 1988 and 1990, they were wearing all the leather, black, spikes, etc., but thinking to myself “well, sure they dress that way, but it’s probably because it’s hard to look badass standing behind a keyboard”. You guys kinda threw that out the window, because your music, look, and image reflected the aggressive loud sounds, but left people, and still leave people doubting as to the gender or sexual identity of the musicians. Though these days it's becoming less of an issue. It was for so long a point in people’s music, and image. I remember when Bob Mould the punk star, one of the pioneers with Husker DU, he came out and was kind of bugged about it. Not because of the image issue, but he didn't feel it mattered as to the quality of his music. It was not in his subject matter, at least not when he was younger. Now, it has been in some of his work.  On that note, for you, how much of it is for you now with Go Fight? I mean, Moscow Drag was great, Gay on the Dancefloor, kind of thing. You can’t mistake that, but the new song “Queer the World”.  We are now out of Die Warzau and kinda skipped Pigface, tell me about the new stuff. I liked … LOVED the Moscow Drag video, cause, well, it was just a fun song, but it was really like, a campy snubbing your nose at the Russian oppression, with some fun to it. I'll admit, for me, I have not had “FUN” used to describe industrial stuff for a while. Not since Revolting Cocks had “Beers Steers and Queers”, or “Do you think Im Sexy”, and… Well, Ministry “Jesus Built My Hotrod”.  So, fire away.

Yes, Go Fight is a more playful approach to the subject matter, but no less indicative of what we are about and stand for. The song “Queer the World” leverages the word “queer.” It’s a word that has been reclaimed and even refocused. We can recognize that it’s not just about being different and transgressive, but about being interesting. “Queer the World” is about making the world less average, more interesting, more expressively beautiful. Retaking the word “queer” is coup for LGBTQ community because you don’t have to dive into the alphabet soup of it all and you can just be Queer. Someone doesn’t have to say, “oh, I’m a femme-presenting non binary bisexual,” you can just be Queer- and there is power in that grouping.



Yeah, I love the feel for the music. I mean, I remember thinking you were able to stand next to “Pussy Riot” over Moscow Drag, and the statement was similar with that, “we’re never going to go away” and the point of it being in your face, and not to be afraid of it, unless YOU make yourself afraid of it.  What is the … I guess ...  the just scratching the surface point of the new album?

The Album is called “Tokyo Sexwale”, named for a political prisoner, who broke the law to do the right thing. Building up the release of it, we celebrated one person every day for 30 days who had broken the law to do the right thing, from Harriet Tubman to Harry Hay, etc.

So, I also wanna say Cate McFarland called me last week told me she got her copy of the album that she had no idea you had used the pictures of her in the sleeve. She was very happy and surprised. (She is a mutual friend of ours).  So, I expect to score a signed copy when I see you next.


I got involved with the LOVELOUD Foundation, and covering that concert because of the situation in Utah, with the LGBT and teen suicides. It's an epidemic here, and being Mormon, I can honestly say why that is happening. I am pushing to tell these kids it’s going to get better.  I would use you as an example if I were to talk to a kid in the throws of depression over being shunned. It gets better. Get out there and create something. How would you address it personally? I mean, I doubt it's as bad in Chicago.

I am lucky in that regard, having good friends. In high school, I fooled around with guys who identified as straight. The labels fall away at night, I think. What a different world it would be if they would tell kids in school that they might be sexually attracted to people and things that have NOTHING to do with their emotions. How liberating. You had said earlier about your niece, “She claims” she is a non Binary young man, then later is “A gay teenage girl”. I’m uncomfortable with saying “she claims” because there is an undercurrent of falsehood to it. I think we benefit a lot from assuming the person in question knows who they are better than we do. Finding out who you are is part of the sexual identity and gender identity journey. And that is fluid. No term is going to describe someone completely, nonbinary, gender fluid, etc. My son is gay, and we knew it when he was very young. And sexuality didn’t really factor into it. He just had friends who were boys, and he felt he wanted them to be “Special” to him, and he wanted to be “special” to them. I would say to the young people in this, yes it will be ok, it will be difficult, but I remember that one point in life when I realized and was able to say to myself “I am bisexual, and this is THE BEST THING I could have been.” I do know I experience passing privilege and I have options that other groups don’t have, joyful experiences that are unique as well. But, as an adult, my friends uniformly love being who they are, no matter how they identify.

I know that. Lemme tell ya, here in Utah, the scandal, people put so much on the label, cause of the stigma around it, the religion and culture dictate so much. I mean, hell, they told me for years, masturbation will make me gay, and … well, I'm still hung up on Belinda Carlisle. My wife constantly complains that Im still stuck in the '80s as far as music goes. BUT… Belinda man…

Labels can be dangerous because they give people a SOLID identity that they now feel they have to protect, despite the fact that people don’t just have one. There are people running away from their sexuality, because of the stigma, but also just because they have been attracted to women their entire lives, then suddenly at one point want to have a connection with a man that way. That NEED to protect their identity turns them into the most virulent haters, wanting to legislate it, wanting to codify who people are. And that far right methodology occasionally sees reality through the fog.  Rush Limbaugh, years ago said it perfectly on accident, “They want you to believe that whatever happens between consenting adults' sexually, is ok”. And that was exactly it. We do feel that way, you unintentionally figured it out in your ongoing effort to insult us. Pedophilia is wrong because children can’t consent. Bestiality, Objectophilia, none of those can consent, people who are drunk or altered, etc. We do have a very bright line and it’s actually really obvious.

I get that, I also agree. If someone is a Dom, and someone is a Sub, and they are totally into what each other want to do, “Beat My guest” I say.. (Bad pun). 

Well, Jim, Really thanks for your time, I hope your new album does well, and I do hope to see you perform live some time, in any form, and I hope the readers give your music a good listen.

Yes, thanks for the opportunity.


Jeremy "Jacques" Hinks

An indie GONZO music journalist in Salt Lake City, and an Anarchist behind the Zion Curtain. Jeremy Hinks is an obnoxious Type-A Male, who is embarrassingly straight and a staunch LGBTQ Ally with little tact, and a big heart. He has supported his LGBTQ friends since he was a teenager.

He has photographed on multiple tours U2, The English Beat, Peter Hook & The Light, and is somehow making a name for himself photographing Pink Floyd Tribute bands, The Australian Pink Floyd Show, Britfloyd, Dead Floyd. He is one of the photographers for the LOVELOUD Foundation in Utah, an organization to bring awareness and support for the young LGBT community in Utah, and to bring an end to the epidemic of suicides there.  

He also drives a Vespa, and wears kilts, is rarely seen wearing pants, should be considered armed and dangerous, so do not approach without extreme caution.

New Music, 'The Welder & The Lark,' Evolves From Queer Collaborative

Out singer/songwriter Richard Cortez recently dropped his 7th studio release titled, The Welder & The Lark.

The collection of six tracks, which OUT calls “especially profound,” explores innately personal themes of unrequited love, intimacy and monogamy across three music videos.

Cortez, who walked away from a production deal in 2004 when asked to present himself as a ‘straight’ artist, has spent years releasing his music through his own record label, Wollenberg Records.

The entrancing final music video for the collection, “The Overture/Don’t Go, Not Yet,” features an overture composed by collaborator Cole Witter utilizing musical themes from all six tracks as well as the EP’s opening track.

Along with the music, Cortez invited cinematographer Philip Campbell and dancer/choreographer Christian Denice to collaborate on the visuals.

In an interview with OUT, Cortez explains that much of the project was inspired by a unrequited love that could never be.

“What do you do with all the love you have for someone who doesn't love you the same way in return?,” Cortez wondered aloud to OUT. “Some people drown their sorrows in whiskey gingers, or "eat. pray. love." their way around the world -- I decided to spend every dollar I had on creating an infinite space where that love could live and be free.”

Deciding that a suite of songs dedicated to this love wasn’t enough, Cortez gathered together a coalition of creatives from different mediums to breathe a larger, more expansive multimedia life into the project.

“I never got to tell him I loved him, so I'm telling the world,” added Cortez.

“Every single artist who contributed to this project makes their own work that inspires me regularly,” Cortez told OUT. “Cole Witter, Boy Radio, Philip Campbell, Kevin William Reed, Christian Denice, Erik Carter, Logan Sawtelle, and Nick Kask inspire me far beyond this work. Individually, they are all incredible and important.”

With a goal of exploring heartbreak through several artistic mediums, Cortez admits his biggest challenge was learning to “trust and let go, allowing the true heart of collaboration to be the driving force of the project.”

That lesson allowed more wisdom to manifest throughout the development of The Welder & The Lark.

Cortez summed up the creative journey telling OUT:

“Overall, it was healing process, both artistically and spiritually. I learned to take my time. I learned to let my heart break without punishing myself for it. I learned that I don't have to be suffering to make relevant and impactful work. I learned a lot about trust and acceptance in collaboration. I learned to take bigger risks, both creatively and financially, as an independent artist. But more than any of that, I learned that loving the process of creation will always generate a beautiful outcome.

Watch “The Overture/Don’t Go, Not Yet” below.

You can also check out the previous music videos, "Nobody's Baby," and "Dope Sick."

(h/t OUT)


Bearded and Burly Men Embrace Their Inner Mermaid to Raise Attention to Violence Prevention

Last year they raised over $300,000 towards mental health research and they're back to raise awareness of violence and to help violence prevention. The Merb'ys of Newfoundland in Canada are a group of burly, bearded men who pose against beautiful Newfoundland landscapes. A genius concept, really, because who doesn't like beautiful men and beautiful nature pictures?

In addition to being great to look at, the Merb'ys are raising awareness of violence in Canada, with proceeds going to Violence Prevention Newfoundland and Labrador. In doing this, the Merb'ys sending out the message that violence will not be tolerated.

The purpose of the 2019 calendar is to challenge traditional masculinity to help curb violence. The photoshoot included men of all shapes and sizes, ethnic backgrounds, and gender identities to showcase that there is beauty in differences. Merb'ys is doing a great public service by donating their money to violence prevention programs while also being all inclusive with a variety of different models. The creator of Merb'ys, Hasan Hai, never expected this concept to make as much money as it did, but judging by last year's profits, it's safe to assume that people love strong, husky men.


h/t: globalnews.ca

Cher's Strips Down ABBA's 'One of Us' And It's One To Hear

Sometimes we are just out of our minds when it comes to our singing icons. As soon as Cher announced her farewell tour version 22 (actually it's being called Cher 2019 Here We Go Again and here are the dates) I received multiple texts to see if I would have room for company when she performs in Fort Lauderdale next year.  Some of my friends are not as dedicated as others out there, but they've had their moments, like when they flew to London to see Cher, even after they saw the same concert four times prior in the United States. Yeah, we'll call it dedication. Love yah Ryan and Pookie.

By looking at some of our recent posts, we even have some staff members that seem to be Cher fans.

Cher Surprises With Announcement Of ABBA Cover Songs Album

Cher Also Shares "I've Never Been A Huge Cher Fan"

More Cher In The New ABBA-Tastic Trailer For "Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again"

Janet Jackson & Madonna Release New High-Style Music Videos, Plus A Cher/Madonna Remix

Whe I first heard that Cher was doing ABBA songs and then going on tour, I was like "NO."  But her fresh takes on the Scandanavian hits are growing on me.  Now she has released her go at "One of Us." Listen to them in whichever order you want, but I'll throw Cher's version in first.  

When I listened to her version, I kept telling myself, I know the original, but I just cannot place it.  The early '80s drum beat to signify sand retrospective feelings was missing which allowed Cher's version to slow right down and let you feel a little more.  Also missing was someone else's voice.  No one was harmonizing which allowed the "One of Us" to be one person sharing their pain as opposed to a group trying to share one person's thoughts.

Thanks Cher.  You're making me become more of a Cher with each new release.  While I'm waiting for something new and original, I'll digest the ABBA retakes. The new album drops on Sept. 28 with seven other unreleased songs. 

Cher's version of "One of Us."



The Original ABBA - "One of Us"



And if you need a bigger Cher fix, here is her entire Farewell Tour from 2014



h/t: sdgln.com

Instinct Exclusive with Talented Photographer Randy Addison

The world of photography, at least to me, is still something that is greatly undervalued in the world. Many of us think that we are our own true photog nowadays with all the filters and nonsense out there, but the art and craftsmanship of a true photographer is something that should be appreciated regardless of how advanced our technology gets in society.

Randy Addison is one of those photographers who recently caught my eye when I noticed he did a couple of shots that featured a good friend of mine. Sure, the Atlanta local is fun to look at, but he backs up his rugged handsomeness with his incredible talent behind the lens that show each subject he shoots in an unbelievably beautiful light.

Not only is he an expert photographer, but Randy is also the owner of a salon based company called Helmet Hairworx, which has several different locations scattered across the Georgia capital. Always good to see gay men who go after what they want and work their butts off while doing it with much success throughout.

I spoke with Randy over the weekend about his burgeoning photography business, why he might pass out if he's ever around Henry Cavill and what's next for this talented individual. 

What got you into the world of photography and did you have any inspirations behind it? 

Even though I've had a life filled with art, photography is a more recent interest of mine and a direct result of trying to document one of my other artistic passions ... hair.

The collections of men you feature are broken down into the following categories: strength and experimental. Can you explain what goes into both?

Right now, it's almost an arbitrary division, but my Strength collection is more about portraits of strong men and my Experimental collection is an exploration of fantasy in my images, employing more digital art techniques to create a mood or composition.

How do you go about your process when shooting someone?

I try to get to know them and get them comfortable with me.  I think once they see I'm a goofy guy with my own vulnerabilities and awkwardness (crawling around on the floor with a camera at 52 .... not always graceful), they are more at ease.  Then we just do some random shots to test whatever lighting scenario I've set up.  I try to capture an image and show them something right away that will put them at ease. They usually say something like, "wow, that DOES look good," and you can literally see them relax and feel more confident. Then I start directing and moving them around so that the light starts to tell a story.

Is there a celebrity or famous person you are dying to work with?

Henry Cavill.  But I might pass out.

You are a jack of many trades, in that you are also president of Helmet Hairworx. Can you explain a little more about that as well?

I was brought up to be a sort of modern Renaissance man, and I think my life experiences reflect that. After getting a BA in English at Furman University and an MFA in Illustration from SCAD, I put those degrees to work in different ways.  I was even an artist for a mannequin company for a few years and did some non-profit work for the Episcopal Church.  At 34, I decided to become a barber because I could literally sculpt something AND change someone's self-perception at the same time.  That led to one of the greatest honors of my life ... being surrounded by wonderful artists and teammates and clients who eventually trusted me and helped me grow a strong company of hair stylists in Atlanta, Ga, called Helmet Hairworx.  We have a diverse team of thoughtful, talented people working together, and we do it with our mantra of "sincere effort, skillful execution, and high intention."  Makes me proud every single day.

Which avenue do you prefer: photography or the world of hair?

They are so related in my mind, I can't separate them. The love of both springs from the same love of art and opportunity to influence someone's self-perception.

Any big projects coming up in 2018 and beyond?

For my photography, I'm finally starting to sell prints on my website and will be releasing some calendars.  I'll be exploring more of the experimental side of photography and, of course, learning every single day.

What is your biggest career goal moving forward?

Other than strengthening my style and artistic voice as an artist ... balance.  I want a career of artistic opportunity, wherever that might take me, and a life of gratitude for the gift of being able to pursue it. The biggest lesson I've learned so far ... allow.  Just allow the universe to show you, and it will.

For more information on Randy Addison, please check out his official page

My Life as a Red Carpet Reporter Has Been Nothing Short of Fabulous

A career in journalism was one that I always thought about doing but never knew how to approach in my younger years. It’s something that I didn’t even go to school for, as my creativity was pointing me in a different direction at that point. Thankfully, oddly enough, the recession was a big reason as to why I was able to begin my journey into the world of writing, which eventually led me to partake in something that I never thought in my wildest dreams I would do: work the red carpet.

I come from the generation where no one was really hiring (late 2000’s-early 2010’s). All kinds of grads, from community colleges to ivy leagues, struggled with finding any sort of employment in a very depressing time economically. It got to the point where many of us were left stumped over how we were going to move past the starting line and begin our desired careers.

A friend of mine knew how much I loved the music industry (I used to be a Billboard chart freak) and recommended that I apply for a now defunct website called Examiner while I spent my days endlessly applying for jobs. I then became a contributing niche music writer for their page, where the pay was god awful but wasn’t the purpose of me doing it as I found pleasure in writing what I felt as opposed to the dollar value I would receive. 

I did this for a couple of years and then started my own publication in 2013. Six months into the beginning of my own pub, I was lucky enough to be granted access to my first true red carpet event: the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards. What’s incredible about all of this was that to this day I still have no idea how I scored a spot on what is considered to be the hottest night in music… it just happened. Even better: this wasn’t just some random no-name experience, it was the mac daddy of award shows that I was lucky enough to attend. 

I didn’t get a chance to talk to, well, anyone. I told Taylor Swift she looked gorgeous when she walked past me (she said, “thanks”) and was too nervous to try to call on anyone’s name as I was brand new to all of this by then. All I knew was that I wanted more of this, as the energy from the carpet is indescribable and something I wanted to do over and over again.

As luck would have it, a major celebrity publication hired me as one of their freelance writers three years ago. I almost fell out of the chair at my old job when they emailed me back with the good news. This was a tip in the right direction for where my career was headed, and I couldn’t wait to see what was next.

Between then and now, I've been able to interview hundreds of the biggest stars in movies, music, television… and even the adult industry. Something that I enjoy doing while there is making a connection with whomever I’m talking to. The red carpet is exhilarating, fun and so much more, but at the end of the day it is a job and can be an absolute pain the ass to do on certain nights.

You have to fight for who you talk to while there, meaning that the biggest names at the event will be harder to get unless you stake your claim.There are other times where minimal reporters show up yet major stars actually attend. This makes the situation that much easier, in particular when I went face to face with Hollywoo icon Meryl Streep back in 2016. I still get goosebumps just from looking at the photo of me and her at Cipriani’s Wall Street, where she spoke at a Christopher Reeve benefit. 

Something that I’ve also numbed to over the years was the understanding that these celebrities ARE JUST PEOPLE. They don’t have halos around them or magical fairy dust that shoots out of their pores. They are there to do a job, just like I am, so me freaking out about how much I love and adore them really isn’t a good thing to do. Sure, I have paid some of them compliments in the past, but my enjoyment in the experience is just simply being two feet from them as they discuss why they are there and my interaction with them before they head to their seats.

There have been a couple of celebs (who will remain nameless) that weren’t particularly friendly while there. I can chalk this up to them having a bad night, not feeling well, etc. It goes back to them being real people too and not robots that we worship on our computers and cell phones. 

Still, every time I go to an event and leave, I feel happy. I get to go home and create my own story from what I saw and heard that night. It gives me satisfaction knowing that thousands if not millions of people are reading what I wrote, whether it's about celebrities, food, the LGBTQ community, travel, business or more (my writing runs through a lot of avenues).

I think what the point I'm trying to make here is: do what you love and love what you do. It doesn't matter what the field is, how much you get paid, or how long you've been doing it. Simple as that. 

This post was created by one of our Contributing Writers and does not reflect the opinion of Instinct Magazine or the other Contributing Writers when it comes to this subject.


Is Subtle Sexy? Or Do You Want The Ring-Enhanced Package?

Is less more? Is less too much? 

We enjoy a good bulge pic here and there or any chance we can see them.  Yep, we share those kinds of pics on here and we're thinking that's why our readership demographic for women is above 20 percent.

When I hear bulge pic, I want to see a bulge. I've questioned some of my writers' thirst levels as some of the leaky bulge pics they share (no, not leaking in that way) are ones that are not much grander than a thumb and are simply a random pant crease.  But then again a bulge is a bulge, no matter if it's a roll of quarters or a can of spray paint.

And then there's the bulges that just po up out of no where.  The ones that are clearly just a lot of junk in the front trunk and have not been choked like a water balloon, but are just there for all to see.

"That's very subtle gym attire" were the words the peeps used over at for this man's choice of clothing for his work out.

What are your thoughts?  Little NSFW.



Yep,  looks good, looks great, and he's packing, but is the gym the most appropriate time to wear a cock ring?  I'm thinking that things is being choked. 

Am I being a little judgy?  Sure.  But the last time I saw someone presenting like that was when he was high on something while dancing at the White Party in Puerto Vallarta. I can see that a bulge like that is great advertising at a "non-chem free, look at me, sex is top reason I flew to here" kind of party, but at the gym? I guess we all have different reasons to go to the gym.

Judge me, judge you, judge us all. That's what I think.

I'm more of a fan of the pic taken of Tyler Posey recently during a hike.

Thanks Tyler for getting us, well me, more excited than the above gym-goer.

Which one gets you going more? The fully engulfed peacock or the package of semi unknown contents?  (Well, we know his contents, too Another Teen Wolf Literally Leaks Onto The Internet. Is It Mr Tyler Posey's Turn?)

Maybe it's like when I just picked up my iPhone XS Max.  It remained in the box until I returned home.  I didn't unwrap it a the store to see how big it was, how it felt in my hand, how it compared to other iPhones in the store.  I unwrapped the box in the comfort of my own abode. Maybe that is how I roll when it comes to men, too.

I'll put money on it that someone will call me or this post hypocritical because we do share a lot of "leaked pics" and bulges and here I am saying I'm more of a fan of the subtleness of a nice simple package. That's my opinion, not of the magazines, and it's how I like to roll. Apparently mr gym-goer rolls differently.



Here's some more subtle and sexy pics of Tyler.




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How Much Do You Know About The Science Behind Who We Are?

Being a member of the rainbow family, it doesn't mean we know everything about other members, other letters of our alphabet soup. I have a lot to learn about the T,QQIAA, fluidity and so on. So when there is a chance to learn more, I take it.

What can science tell us about gender identity and gender dysphoria? This week AsapSCIENCE breaks down the science of being transgender in an educational and respectful way with the help of Gigi Gorgeous.




Of course, most of the people that are against us still believe that science cannot be used to explain science, dinosaurs, and global warming, but at least we can educate yourself.

  All photos are screen shots from The Science of Being Transgender ft. Gigi Gorgeous

Created by: Mitchell Moffit and Gregory Brown
Written by: Jodre Datu, Greg Brown and Mitch Moffit
Illustrated by: Max Simmons
Edited by: Sel Ghebrehiwot
Narrated by: Mitch Moffit