Coming out

Gospel Singer Terrence Stone Came Out As Bisexual

Philadelphia-born singer Terrence Stone came out as bisexual.

Stone, who recently changed his name from Aaron Thomas, has had a successful career as a gospel singer. He’s appeared on shows like American Idol, BET’s Sunday Best, and Showtime at the Apollo. But as he told Philadelphia Magazine, this was never enough for him.

The 27-year-old told the magazine that he’d always felt judged by the Christian and gospel worlds that he called hom.

“I lived my life according to others’ opinions of what I should do and who I should be,” he told the magazine. “Grew up singing in the church. All I knew was church. I love it and I love God. But one thing I could never agree with was the religious aspect. As a gospel artist, it was always challenging for me to be me. The expectations of the gospel industry is to present yourself as this perfect person, when I was far from that.”

Despite the limitations that the gospel industry as put on him, Terrence Stone says that he wants to be as authentically himself as possible. That not only means finding a merge between gospel and R&B, but also means making his bisexuality public knowledge.

“The gospel industry always made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. R&B is another genre of music that I love. It’s music that’s real and tells a story,” he said. “The more I grew as an artist and as a person, I knew that my gift wasn’t only for the church. I then discovered that my mission on this earth is to impact the world through my music and life story no matter the genre. The R&B platform gives me the opportunity to encourage, inspire and uplift people in an authentic way.”

Stone also recorded a message on his Instagram account to share words of encouragement with his fans and say that he'll always be himself (new name or not).


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British Biking Champ Zach Leader Came Out As Gay

19-year-old British Born Zack Leader came out as gay.

Leader is a gravity bike racer, someone who rides pedal-less bikes down hills, from Lincolnshire, and he’s very good at the sport. While continuing on as a student at the University of Lincoln, Leader has won the British Evolution Cup Championships in both 2016 and 2017.

But, his latest accomplishment to date is coming out as gay.


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As Outsports reports, Leader posted on social media, like Facebook and Instagram, the news in a long open letter.

In the letter he says that he wanted to start out 2018 right with no more lies.

“What I’m trying to do is come out and say I’m gay.”

“I haven’t come out properly until now because of a mixture of things. I’ve been a bit nervous to come out because of the general reaction to it and not knowing if people would accept it or not. A lot of it has been because I’ve not been ready to whereas now I know I am.”

“However, the main reason I haven’t come out until now is because of racing.”

Leader goes on to say that he’s known two things since he was very little, that he wanted to be a motorcycle racer and that he was gay.

“In all the time I’ve grown up in motorcycle racing, I’ve never seen a openly gay racer, and I’ve always wondered if there was a reason for that.”

“I’ve always thought there may be a few reasons. One being that motorcycle racing, or racing in general, is perceived to be a very macho and masculine sport and so a gay rider may not be as openly accepted as we like.”


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The athlete went further to say, “Maybe one day we may see more racers happy and confident to come out as a member of the LGBT community!”

“If anyone isn’t too comfortable with me coming out then please don’t hesitate to message me and talk to me about it, I’m no different in any way! I’m still the same crazy, smiling nutter you all know.”

Thankfully, Leader hasn't had to deal with much negative backlash. Instead, Leader has later said that the reaction to his coming out has been “brilliant” with warm welcoming from fans/family and plenty of media coverage as well.

We at Instinct wish to congratulate Zack Leader and want to say that we look forward to watching his career grow from here.

h/t: Outsports

British TV Personality Matt Evers Came Out As Gay

Matt Evers is known as a pair skater, model and British TV personality who’s originally from the US (specifically, a Catholic family in Minnesota).

In an interview with Attitude Magazine, Matt Evers officially came out as gay.

Evers not only shared that he’s gay, but that he had another gay family member who left a big impression on him.

Evers shares that his uncle was gay, but sadly died of HIV/AIDS. Even worse, his family ostracized the uncle because of their religious beliefs.

“He was part of the original San Francisco and New York Fire Island crowd back in the 70s and 80s.”

“I didn’t know I was gay at the time, but when he was dying, it hit me really hard that he didn’t know the love of his mum, my grandmother.”

Evers then added that his uncle being gay was a problem for him too until he later realized he was also gay.

If you want ot support Matt Evers in his work, you can watch him on Dancing on Ice on ITV.

Watch This Bisexual Teen Youtuber's Heartwarming Coming Out Story

Now we’ll be honest, this isn’t a story about a gay teen boy. Instead, it’s about a teen girl.

Yes, that shouldn’t matter, but often female driven stories don’t trend well on sites like Instinct.

That said, when you have such a charming and sincere story as Elle Mills’s, you have to share it no matter what.

But who’s Elle Mills? Mills is a 19-year-old Canadian youtube who creates stories in her videos. The videos are not quite vlogs but they do follow events in her everyday life (just with a little more creativity put into them).

But as popular as Mills has gotten over the years, it seems that there’s one question she can’t seem to escape. “Elle, are you gay?”

This question has pooped up so much and her personal life has transitioned to the point that she feels it’s finally time to answer. And so, she did in the best way she could, she made a video about it.

If you’re wondering how her coming out went, what the reactions of her friends and family were, and why this Instinct Writer immediately went to subscribe to her, then check out the video down below.

Reality Star Johnny Lopez Comes Out On Video

Johnny Lopez, star of the reality show The Riveras and the son of the late Mexican singer Jenni Rivera, has publicly come out in a video on YouTube to discuss his sexuality. Johnny appears in the video with his sister Chiquis and explains how photos of him with his boyfriend of 2 years, Joaquin, were posted online and went viral--causing backlash from fans of his family's story and his mother's music.



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Johnny's late mother, Jenni Rivera, better known as La Gran Señora, was regarded for her strong, independent nature and for not taking nonsense from anyone. Her music was about empowerment and she revolutionized the Mexican regional music genre. Jenni passed away in a horrific plane crash in Mexico on December 9, 2012. Many have publicly scrutinized Johnny for his sexuality and questioned what Jenni Rivera would think of this news if she were alive today.

The video begins with Chiquis introducing the video in Spanish for their large Spanish-speaking demographic and mentions why the video is necessary for not only her brother and family, but for fans of her mother's music. Johnny take over around 1:41 in English so that he could more effectively communicate.

In the video, Johnny expresses the following:

I wanted to make this video first and for everyone to understand me but my boyfriend, as you all know, Joaquín, we both got a little too excited, and he posted a few pictures of us, and I retweeted them, and it went viral.

People began noticing that we were together. They didn’t come out exactly the way I wanted to but they’re out now. I am in a gay relationship right now and I am in love with this person. I’ve been dealing with this part of myself for a long time now.

In that time, I did experiment with girls, tried different things here and there. I still don’t know what my preference is personally.

But I do know that I love this person a lot, I’ve been in love with him for about two years now and I’m happy and it’s the happiest I’ve ever been.

I’ve dealt with this for so long and I never got to tell my mom about this side of myself.

And I know that’s the number one question in everyone’s mind, ‘What would your mom think?’

Take a look at the honest coming out video here:



Israeli Basketball Player Uri Kokia Came Out As Gay

Uri Kokia has become the first Israeli professional basketball player to come out as gay.

The 36-year-old striker for the Hapoel, the second division in the city of Ramat Gan, has had a successful career in Basketball. He’s played professionally for over 15 years and formerly played for Israel’s national basketball team before suffering a torn tendon in his shoulder.

Now, Uri Kokia has made another hallmark moment in his career by coming out as gay.

Kokia shared the fact yesterday (Wednesday, November 29) through an interview with

“After many years of fear, I am now completely calm,” he told them in the interview, "I want to show you can make a long and glorious career as a gay man."

"The fear of coming out of the closet is unreal."

"I want to connect with young people and tell them that you can be different and do what you love," he said.

So far, Kokia has received well wishes and praise for his coming out.

For instance, one Facebook user commented: “You’ve always been an amazing man on and off the field. You’re a role model and I hope that because of your amazing act, kids are not ashamed and comfortable with themselves.”

Meanwhile, another fan tweeted out, “Uri Kokia is stunning and brave.”

Uri Kokia responded to all this on Facebook by saying:

“It’s not easy to put all the thoughts and feelings I’m going through right now. So I’m just gonna say thank you to everyone… for the kind words.”

Former Olympic Swimmer Mark Foster Came Out As Gay

Mark Foster is a five-time British Olympic swimmer, a six-time world champion, a setter of eight world records, and a BBC sports commentator.

And now adding to that list, Foster has come out as gay.

The 47-year-old commentator spoke to the Guardian to share his truth because despite having a good support group of friends and family in private, he was tired of lying to the public.

"It’s not like I’ve been pushed to come out,” he told the Guardian, “I’ve just swerved and swerved. Telling half-truths and not being my true self is only hurting me. I’m 47, a middle-aged man, and I’m no longer competing. And I’m not the first gay sportsman to come out. Gareth Thomas and Tom Daley led the way.”

Foster echos the fact that being an openly gay athlete is still rare and some would say taboo.

He says that since the age of 17 he found it hard to voice out the fact that he is gay. That only became harder as he became a professional athlete.

Mark Foster was even comfortable enough to share that his fears of coming out go beyond that. His fears were deeply rooted in avoiding vulnerability.

"Sharing stuff was always the problem. I’ve got used to avoiding the truth and I never spent much time looking in the mirror. It’s a fear of being vulnerable because if you open yourself up you could be hurt."

Foster shared that he started to see a therapist to understand his feelings and fears.

"It was really hard but I soon found I could tell him the truth because I didn’t really know him. He also won’t judge me and what I say stays with him."

But even more, the real catalyst for Foster sharing this part of his life was the death of his father and the realization that he’ll never be able to share more of his feelings with the man.

Now, Mark Foster is open to sharing not only his present, but also his past in terms of his experiences due to this sexuality.

Foster then shared that he thinks the last hurtle for gay athletes is in football.

"Football is a weird testosterone-driven world and it’s the last bastion. But if a gay footballer came out it would change so many attitudes.”

In the meantime, younger gay athletes have a newly out role model in Mark Foster.

Al Reynolds Finally Comes Out As Bisexual

I know what you’re all thinking—Didn’t Al Reynolds already come out? Isn’t this old news? Well—he hadn’t and it isn’t.

Al Reynolds’ sexual orientation has been questioned since he was married to journalist and ex co-host of The View, Star Jones from 2004-2008. Since their very public divorce, Reynolds has pussyfooted around the speculation that he could be gay. Up until now, Reynolds has deflected on the subject, making other issues factors for his divorce and for not being romantically linked to other women. Take this interview he did with Essence in 2009 where Reynolds is asked about the rumors surrounding his sexuality. Reynolds responds with:

When it comes to people discussing my sexuality I've always taken the higher road, but I get very emotional about it. I'm tired of the disrespect. It has affected my professional career and life. It's difficult when people are making up stories about you and lying about your sexuality.



But now, Al Reynolds has finally come out as a bisexual man. In an interview with Radar Online, Reynolds has opened up about the years he has struggled with hiding his true self and the embarrassment that he has felt with the rumors.

Reynolds tells Radar Online:

Ever since I have been in the public eye, people have been speculating on my sexuality. And ‘speculating’ is a kind word for how it actually played out. With anger and disdain, people have been calling me out as gay, closeted, a sham and even nastier; much nastier.

I have come to a point in my life where I am ready to discuss my truth. I wasn’t ready to do this then — I wasn’t even ready to think about it, let alone process it. To understand my journey and how I got to this point, you need to understand a little about me.

I am the youngest of six children in a Southern Baptist family. We grew up in a three-bedroom mobile home in Horsepasture, Virginia. We were deeply religious; when we weren’t in church we were in school or an after-school activity. My life was filled with vacation bible school, missionary meetings, Sunday school, choir practice and youth ministry.

Life was not nuanced or frivolous, nor did it allow any time for introspection. It was clear and proscribed, black and white, angels or sinners. And people who were intimate with others of their own gender were the worst of all with no chance of redemption, or the glorious afterlife that I was taught awaited us all.

As a black man, that message and the hate and homophobia were multiplied to the nth degree. I saw no path out that would resolve my personal feelings with my deeply held and ingrained religious beliefs.

This internal dissonance was a powerful thing, like a cancer eating at one’s soul. This resulted in some tough times — homelessness, unemployment, dependence on drugs and alcohol, public assistance, and, at the center of it all, a deep, deep shame and a feeling of unworthiness of the love of God. I didn’t believe I deserved to live a good life, and I clearly didn’t.

As a queer man of color myself, I can attest to the difficulties related to coming out in a highly religious and culturally-intense family. By no means is coming out easy for anyone, but when religion is the foundation for all things “family”, it can become a demon of a different kind, wrapping you in fear, that leads to countless other acts of rock-bottom proportions.

Coming out is a serious, personal event in one’s life. An event that, unfortunately, people are stripped of when you lead a very public life.

It may have taken Al Reynolds all these years to finally muster up the courage to speak his truth, but he finally was able to do it on his own terms. But, Al—we knew it was coming, girl!


'Love, Simon' Will Be First Major Film With Gay Teen Romance

We’ve all felt those butterflies in our stomach at the anticipation of getting a response to a note, a text, a phone call, an email or even just a look across the room from that one special someone our heart desires. Throw the complexity of being closeted into the mix and you have yourself a tornado of emotions that is indescribable and weird. For many of us, we’ve experienced this in our teenage years—you know, that awkward stage when nothing fits right, nothing looks good, you are so disinterested and you just want to fit in, but stand out, all with being left alone. And you surround yourself with friends who share in these same narratives, who you can trust and confide in and who sometimes turn around and betray that trust. Oh, to be a young gay boy again!

2018 will bring the arrival of the first major studio gay teen romance to theaters says Entertainment Weekly. In March, 20th Century Fox will release Love, Simon, a film about a teenager who begins a back and forth online relationship with another closeted student in his school. The film is based on Becky Albertalli’s hit YA novel Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda.

Love, Simon stars Nick Robinson, Josh Duhamel, and Jennifer Garner and comes from the same producers of The Fault in Our Stars. The film is set in a typical high school setting that will give you major nostalgia and focuses on themes of identity, coming out, friendship and love. It’s a story that is mixed with emotions, as high school tends to be, but that is pivotal in the way stories are portrayed for the LGBTQIA community and for the youth. Think modern day and progressive Pretty in Pink, Sixteen Candles, and Breakfast Club!

Here’s a look at sneak peek at Love, Simon



Entertainment Weekly has First Look images at the film that will give us the first pair of gay leading teens. Coming out in March 2018!


Jackie Chan Had Six Words For His Daughter Who Just Came Out

Jackie Chan is in the middle of celebrating the release of his latest film the Foreigner, but it seems that the biggest news happening around him is about his daughter.

Earlier this month Jackie Chan’s daughter Etta Ng came out as a lesbian through Instagram with a simple eight word caption saying, “In case no one got the memo, I’m gay.”

She then followed that message with hashtags like “#lgbtqai, #lgbt, #lesbian, and #androgynous.”


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Now it seems that Jackie Chan is ready to respond to this public announce, and like his daughter he’s decided to do it in short wording.

While promoting his film, Jackie Chan simply had six words to say, “If she likes it, that’s fine.”

Jackie Chan isn’t the only one to accept his daughter’s coming out. News sources reported on the daughter being warmly welcomed and cheered on by many online commenters.

While the Chinese government is still very wish-washy (though more on the rough side) concerning LGBTQ people, the general populace themselves are starting to become more tolerant.

In addition to her coming out, it’s been revealed that 17-year-old Elaine Ng is in a relationship with model and social media darling Andi Autumn, a 30-year-old Canadian living in Hong Kong.

The two have shared a photo together on Instagram where Andi said,

“I’ve never met anyone like @stolenmilktea (Etta).”

“She has given me a chance to fully express the running thoughts in my head. No judgements, just understanding. Everything was against us.”

“We’ve been pushed down again and again but its worth it knowing we will get through it together, side by side. skip past all of the difficulties we’ve had this year, we are finally heading in the right direction, we have a path.”